Hi everyone ...

Well since this seems to be the done thing to do, here's my story Not to sure how much or little to say so I'll just type whatever comes to mind and see how it goes.

Firstly, thanks to Pash and the team, really impressive customer service. I placed my order around midday Wednesday and was kept informed the whole way - order confirmation, shipment advice, and anticipated delivery date. All accurate as (theoretically) it arrived Friday. I spent most of Friday at work in a state of anticipation, only to get home and find not a nice big Express post envelope at home but the missed delivery notice ... was hoping my wife would pick it up for me when she did the groceries but apparently not. A bit disappointed there but was able to pick up Sat morning. So - very impressive, nothing worse than placing an order then having to wait weeks.

Before describing my first flight, as is obvious from the previous paragraph I am married (with kids) ... so not sure if this places me in a minority of Fleshlight users? I'm assuming its mainly single guys that are the main users. For me though its a little different, (here's the part I'm not sure how much or little to tell - again I'll just go with the flow, maybe you want to skip this part!). I've been married for over ten years to a wonderful woman, but if we have an area we are really different it is sex drive. I have a fairly high drive I guess - but my wife is very much the opposite. SHe's not a physical person at all ... wouldnt miss sex, never intiates, very passive, doesnt really even like to kiss. Oral sex is definitely out. Has been the source of much frustration over the years - we've worked at it, and while we've come to some understanding there are many things I'm sure most couples take for granted that I can only long for! But she makes up for it in many other ways, she's a kind and loyal partner.

Anyway, thats just to set the background, fortunately she has come to accept that I do have a much higher drive so she's been very understanding with issues like me viewing porn and me "taking care of myself" when the mood takes me. I even had one of those moulded vagina type sex toys in the past, and she was OK with that - it was pretty unsatisfactory though - tore pretty easily after a few goes. I'm probably slightly below average lengthwise (5.5" - what is average anyway lol) but above average girth wise, and the previous toy didnt seem to take to that too well. So I was surfing around looking for a replacement when I found this site. I was intially unconvinced but then I came across the forum and read all your testimonials. Not only that, but I was suprised to see that there was a real feel of community. Convinced me pretty quickly and I decided to take the plunge!

So tonight the kids were finally asleep and it was time to open the packages. Despite some hesitation, my lady wife agreed to be with me for my first flight - more as there in spirit than active participant, but its nice to know she is supportive in her way. Based on reading the forum I'd chosen two inserts - the STU, based on realism advice, and for the second I went with a pink mouth wonderwave - given the lack of oral in this household I couldnt resist the mouth ! But for first flight I definitely wanted to go the lady STU first.

Surprisingly enough I was more nervous than apprehensive ... to be honest I actually found it difficult to get an erection first up! Thats really unusual for me, I'm normally standing at attention at the first sign of anything erotic But a bit of lube and a few preliminary strokes took care of that. Opening the packages I did the standard thing and admired the mocha lady - and had the obligatory exploratory finger feel. The bumps inside felt great and I couldnt wait to feel them on my cock. Into a sink of warm water for five minutes, and then she seemed warm to the touch. Back to the bed, a little more lube, and then no more waiting, I pressed my penis all the way into the warm opening.

My initial reaction was I hadnt warmed her up enough! I guess I was a little wary of it being too hot, I'll know next time that the water should be a little hotter. But it was silky smooth and I immediately loved the feel of long slow strokes. I couldnt feel the bump texture of the STU as much as I thought I would - perhaps I was overgenerous with the lube. Loved the suction though and overall the sensation was realistic and really pleasurable. I didnt experiment too much - that will come later (so to speak!) and I gradually built up the pace. I did get my wife (reluctantly!) to have a few strokes for me but mostly it was me, I'd guess I stroked for about 8 minutes before having a deep and powerful orgasm. Certainly felt very relaxed and satisfied afterwards.

So there it is, I've joined the flight club and really excited to have done so. I'd guess I'll be alternating between flighting and the real thing - definitely not going to wait long before giving those pink WW lips a try! I've read many of you saying it only gets better with time, so hoping that the FL proves the solution for me to some of life's little frustrations.

Looking forward as well to participating in the community, the fact that one even exists for a product such as this is a testament both to the product and the Fleshlight Australia team I think.

That's my story!

Hi Cards, welcome to fleshlight australia

Its great to hear you took the time to read through the forums to help make your decision. That's exactly why we have them. It helps give everyone a better idea on what the fleshlight is really about.

Its so good to hear you have an understanding wife when it comes to self satisfaction. Most of us males do have a hi sex drive and want it more often than women. I know thats the case with me and fazchicky. Id be happy with every day 2 or 3 times, but never gonna happen

Give it some more time and your wife will probably even join in more with your flights. Even if she isnt in the mood, she may pop the fleshlight between her legs and do the motions for you to help it feel even more realistic.

Anyways, great to have you here, and happy flighting.

Faz

A nice read Cards and welcome to the forums. I never really read testimonials the first time round cuz I can't be bothered but I enjoyed yours and it had some background etc to it and I like that! I don't think you are alone in the being married with kids department. I'm sure there are a lot of married fathers with fleshlights that we don't hear about. But on here we've got you and Fazman, I'm sure it will increase.

Sounds like you have a real companion in your marriage and that she is like your best friend. I always look to the future and hope that my wife is like a best friend as those marriages are the ones that seem to work. It is great that she is very understanding. Who knows what the future will bring for you.

Congrats on your first FLight and it great to know that our forum ramblings really do help people in their purchases.

Wow Excellent testimonial Cards. First of all welcome to the family... sounds a bit like the 'mob'.. we only happily kill off a few billion sperm so it's all good LOL

Well where do I start... Your testimonial covers so many of the bases that really got me intrigued and fascinated by Fleshlight in the first place. Reading these forums and testimonials really does work to help get punters to take the plunge doesn't it? And for someone like me I saw something that a lot of women are starting to see.. finally a product for men that not only feels real but can really help men in many situations.

Firstly thanks for the special mention, reading a testimonial like this only makes what we do all the more worthwhile.

Secondly, you are amongst a much higher average of users than you think, just not as many of the married FLyers post as single guys, I guess thats down to a time issue. Fleshlight is a marriage saver and your testimonial is proof again.

I would like to throw my 2c in here about married women and their sex drive. I was married to my husband for 11 1/2 years and in a large portion of that time, my sex life went a little like your wife's. Admittedly there were some differing circumstances of course, but I lost interest, in oral, anything too adventurous and could really survive without it if I had any choice. However I did refind my libido and pretty soon I was masturbating more than my husband. He didnt masturbate at all and I would have been happy if he wanted to do that to porn also if it meant leaving me alone. The downside to my story is that I am no longer with him and the love was lost long before the sex and libido. So just as a side note here you might find some interest in the Fish oil thread on the forum here. This will help your wife to get back a lot of sex drive, if she wants to of course.

The next point you covered regarding previous bought fake pussy toy that tore only after a few uses is one I hear repeatedly and then finally those guys find fleshlight. Thank the heavens! You have been saved finally. And just so you know.. you are well and truly amongst the average in penis length. Depending on which survey you read some would put you in above average length. And while you have been blessed with above average girth, the previously bought toy would probably have torn anyway. Sorry hope I didnt burst your bubble.

Onto your first Flight.. anticipation can be one of the biggest let downs, not just in sexual pleasures but many things..for example too much hype over a new movie can blow it for ya everytime.. (no pun intended) lol So this would have added to your stage fright but good to see it took no time to overcome.
Also nice of your wife to join you although I firmly believe the best FLights are when you are on your own. You can really get into the zone more. When with a partner most men are simply using the fleshlight to get started and then get to finish with her. I have had partners and friends say the orgasm is much more intense when alone and in the zone. So your next few flights will not only get better with this in mind but also as you start to return sensitivity to your shaft, they will simply blow you away. So once you get the warming up right, some porn to get you very much in the mood and you will be hard even before your FLady has even started to warm up, and slowly work out the right measure of everything for you, things will really turn around for you. Another happy camper walking around with that knowing FL smile on his dial.

Thank you so much for sharing your story Cards, and I am looking foward to more from you here on the board.. and yes.. Welcome to the FLight Club! hehe (thats a line I use over on the us Forum mostly)

Pash
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Thanks for the responses guys - good to know I wasn't rambling to no purpose

It took many years to get where we are now - it was a big step I think for her to talk about some of these issues, let alone participate with an aid like Fleshlight. But I agree - if you can get the communication going, FL can be a real relationship saver, in terms of taking a lot of that frustration away. Fanstastic product.

Really interested to hear many of you talk about how the sensitivity increases over time and you can feel the textures more and more ... I'm looking forward to that!

Anyway good to meet you all, I guess I'll leave this one here as the testimonial and wander off and see whats happening in the Member's forum, look forward to chatting with you all and contributing to the community.

Oh and Pash ... I'm going to go search for that fish oil thread ... I'm intrigued

Welcome, Cards! Greetings from the UK. I'm married too, with four children and four grandchildren... However, my wife can no longer have sexual intercourse, while I still need it frequently. I suffered for three years - until I got my Fleshlight.

There is NO true substitute for a real live woman, but I think the Fleshlight is the "next best thing". It does improve with practice - but what worthwhile activity does NOT improve with practice? Good luck, and Happy FLighting!.

Hi Jonny - have been reading a lot of your posts How's things in the UK at this time of year ... I see our boys gave yours another touchup in the cricket

Back on topic, I couldn't resist and had to try out my WW last night. WOW .... I was really impressed. I enjoyed the STU the first time around but the WW as amazing. Could really feel those waves ... and I have to say I love the mouth orifice too ... very visually appealing. Just outstanding ... I told my wife that she was fired ....

Only joking, but fantastic experience, as good as it gets apart from the real thing.

hi Cards! Cricket, Rugby, you name it you seem to win these days. Still, the LAST rugby world cup was not QUITE the same result! lol

Glad all going well with FL.

Regards, jonnyW

FLN I missed something you said about 10 days ago " they've got a lady's touch, but are also as tough as nails when they need to be." about a FleshLight. Reckon you could have been talking about the average lady as well. Lol.

lol very true jonny

[font="Arial"][/font]Hi all, good thread. Had to respond just to see if i could now. Yes, I jumped the pound from USA to "down under". Just wont you to know that you are right, communication is the key toward a lasting marriage. It's not about giving 50-50, it's giving 80-20 and trying to understand your mate's point of view. Being married for 45+ years (46 in Feb.) I think that I'm experienced in "giving". (And how)

Thank you Fazman for your help!

Hey Retired... welcum aboard *winks*

Very welcome Retired. Hopefully you got ur email sorted out so they wont bounce to me anymore

Hi, Retired. Welcome to the forum, and nice for me to have some older company, although all these young people put up with me wonderfully well!

I'm married for 47 years, and yes, there should be more "give" then "take" from BOTH partners, even if that's a logical impossibility!

Do I now have competition for the oldest member?

Nope, Johnny W, you're still the "Old man of the hills" as I'm only in my 60's. Not quite as old as dirt but gaining on it. May have you beat with 4 kids, 12 G-kids, 5 G-G-kids and another one "in the oven". :-) Who said that old men can't get it up and have fun? Ok, not like when we were in out teens but still able. (and willing) Take care.

Yes beaten me. Have four children and only 4 grandchildren.

Agree about ability to have fun. Life is all about being able to have family, work and play in balance, thus producing a HAPPY life, with all its ups and downs. You take care, too.

Regards, jonnyW