Hi guys,

I am new to this forum and i would like to get an advice from you.
I am late 30s and happily married. I have got premature ejaculaton. I have never tried to get an expert advice and i haven't spoken to anybody about this. When we make love i last about 1min and within lets say 5 minutes i am ready for another tour when i last longer 5-10 minutes. My wife is happy with our sex life the way it is but i would like to last longer on the first part.

As i said this is first time i am talking about my condition and i would like to find out from you if there is a way to fix it. I was thinking to buy a STU but i would like to know from you if is going to help me. I would like to share opinion with other guys with the same problem.

Thanks.

Hi Asnad. Premature ejaculation can be learnt to control.

We have a stamina training guide that works in conjunction with the use of the stamina training unit. You can see the link to it on the stamina training unit page.

The guide teaches you methods of control and exercises to help control yourself. By using the guide you will find yourself able to last longer and hold of ejaculation till your ready to release.

Hope this helps

Faz

If you need stamina, the Stamina Training Unit sounds like the best way to go! Its built to help increase stamina after all!

What Faz said

Thanks guys,

My problem is I don't believe that the STU, the guide or other methods is going to help me. Maybe that's why i still have PE. If i would belive that there is a cure probably that would help me.
FLN, i have tried something similar, "Stud", a spray and it helped when i used it but i haven't seen any improvement after i stopped using it.
I think it is a psychological problem.

asnad, I'm sure that the STU will improve you to some point. If you don't atleast try it though, you will never know! I have seen several guys on the US forums that have found improvement from using not only the STU, but from using ANY Fleshlight for this problem!

Do those techniques anesthetise to the point that the experience is not as enjoyable, as effectively you are dulling your nerves which give the good sensations that come with stimulation?

After using fleshies I lasted an hour on my first time, and I didn't even "finish". Mind you it was 4am and I was quite drunk so dunno if that helped me last longer as well.

I find now after using them for 2 years or so. If I want to have a quicky and finish in a couple of mins, no problems, if I want to draw it out longer, no problems either. But lately when I just want to bust a load, I cant be bothered drawing it out. Much prefer to draw it out with fazchicky

Hi Asnad, welcome to our world.

I think you are right on at least one count.. you do have a psychological barrier causing some of your problem as you have already discounted the fleshlight from working. Also you may need to look at your diet and if you are taking any kind of medication that you have had since the problem started.

I would like to know a couple of things that may also be adding to the problem. Do you masturbate at all? Having sex with your wife is great but how often do you get to ejaculate? If you are only having sex once a week and no masturbation in between then you have built up a lot of tension to that once a week release that it would be very hard to control.

You would need to put a bit of effort into the training method involved with any kind of masturbation be it by hand or with a fleshlight. Personally I would much rather see you masturbate with the fleshlight a lot between those sessions with the wife. Now if you do it by hand or toy, you need to work on your strokes and edging. IT's not just what you use but how you use it IE you need to stroke to the brink of ejaculation and learn when to stop and pull back not allowing yourself to release, then when the build up has subsided go again and stop again before you reach the point of no return, and so on. It will take time and patience, but what a way to fix a problem? This should make a lot of difference to your Premature Ejaculation.

As for the mental side of things, try not to be so hard on yourself and give yourself a fair go, its a common problem and perhaps with a bit of visual stimulation from some porn or your wife if she wants to get involved. Just think of the end result if you commit yourself to masturbating at least once a day, while edging increasing your distance with practice. Edging will not only help to last longer, it is also when you need to learn how to use your PC muscles and control everything a lot more. And the final cherry to edging is the power of the orgasm is tenfold.

I would also suggest the STU as the fleshlight for you to work through this. It is a far cheaper option to use a fleshlight than many of the other medical methods on offer and more enjoyable and it can be done.

I hope this helps...

Pash

Hey Buddy,

It seems like you just simply enjoy and are aroused by sex too much. Rather than consider this a problem, this seems to be a matter that can be rectified with training. You definately need to masturbate as often as your libido will allow and a good simulated pussy like the FL will most probably help. It's a matter of training and knowing when to slow down and even stop when you feel that "train running away" sensation as you build to an orgasm or ejaculation.

Yep definately a pleasurable problem to deal with and train yourself to control.

Good Wanking and Good F%cking Mate