First of all thanks to pash and the gang for sending me my flight so quickly i received my flight in 48 hours from the time i ordered it almost like that funny add with the xpress post box appearing next to me in bed lol.

For some time i procrastinated about buying a fleshy i felt bad about the fact that here i am a guy of 43 years old without a girl friend resorting to a vagina toy to get myself off just didn't seem right neither does masturbating at my age i should have a partner to enjoy those pleasures in life though i understand there are many reasons why men do continue to masturbate even married men a number of them right here in the forums but i still feel very much like a loser you might say never the less i just couldn't resist the temptation so after reading much about this wonderful toy i finally decided to purchase one an STU type.

Like most guys when i first unwrapped my flight i just had to put my finger inside the first thing i noticed was how soft it was also that it was very cold i thought I'm not putting my Willy into a cold fleshy i had about 45 minutes to test flight before my daughter came home from school so into the sink hot water and counting down the minutes i put it into its case lubed it and my dong with the good wet stuff and began with the much read about shoe method placing it on my mattress with towel underneath and pillow on top to cushion against the hard plastic case i thrust into my virgin fleshy.
The feeling was unmistakable a wave of emotion came over me as it was the first time in two years since I've experienced this wonderful feeling it felt warm, moist and just like a real Virgina alas though the feelings were familiar the same old problem i had with my ex girlfriend and other women in my life still haunts me and i wasn't able to ejaculate into my fleshy not on my first occasion but later that night when my daughter was asleep i tried again with success however allot of effort was required and my abdominal muscles got a work out as much as my dick and sadly the orgasm i experienced wasn't mind blowing as for many that I've read about here.
I've read the forums about some of the negative people saying it wasn't that good but the problem seems to be guys that have been masturbating using their hands too long have desensitized their penis so that intercourse isn't what it should or could be anyhow this problem that I've suffered with now for over 15 years was a direct result of my four year relationship failing the problem i seem to have is a psychological one rather than physical i know many guys here would say well what the problem? would be great to not orgasm for long periods but the problem is that the orgasms are not intense and often makes the woman feel like shes not doing it for you it's called retarded ejaculation unlike premature ejaculation very little seems to be known about it or why it happens but the theory is too much hand masturbation causing desensitization I'm not too sure about that.

Anyhow i will persist and hope that one day i can begin to enjoy sex as i did so many years ago I'm thinking about seeing a sexual therapist or maybe a dick transplant lol do they do those?

hi flightfan, great testimonial. Its always great to hear from our older flighters, and especially one thats been in ur situation. You know what it feels like and can relate the fleshlight to that feeling.

I really hope that flights become incredible, cause that feeling of intensity is amazing

Faz

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Welcome to the forums, Flightfan.
I've got to say that this is the first time I've heard of retarded ejaculation - it really sounds bittersweet... it's just a pity you have to endure the bitter part of it more often.
I think the psychological side of sex and arousal in general is too often overlooked by guys, and I guess it's fare enough considering we're way more detached from sexual emotion than women (or any emotion for that matter) - to the point at which it would seem that erection and ejaculation are purely physical reflexes to most men.

I have no doubt that mindset, stress and past experience all bear incredibly on the sexual performance of us guys, although I've only ever heard the "premature" side of the argument: being that a man is far more likely to have problems with premature ejaculation if he's convinced it's going to happen as a result of poor performance during previous occasions, which leads to a rather vicious circle.
I read in an article saying that most medicinal 'cures' to premature ejaculation are simply a placebo, but for all intents and purposes, work as courage in a bottle. A lot of them have the desired effect for this reason.

I know that all has little to do with you, and as you've said, it doesn't seem much is known about your condition - but I'm willing to bet that in terms of cause, similar emotions wouldn't be too far off.
With any luck your new STU will help you work past these problems as you become more accustomed to the natural feel and sensations bringing back memories - both good and bad.

Thanks FLN your right about the emotional factor and many of the things you said are right on the money good sex and better orgasms all begin in the brain its said to be the biggest sexual organ and very much starts there i guess if i were to be honest i miss the emotional aspect of a sexual relationship as much as the phyical i think most men cheat themselves and are not honest with their own emotions when sexual problems such as mine accur or in the case of premature ejaculation its the pycological aspect thats sometimes very dificult to deal with no pill to cur my problem and my past experiances have very much to do with it.

For example the subconcious mind tells me not to enjoy the sexual experiance too much as this woman may leave me tomorrow and nothing will bring her back to me so loseing control opens me to great pain of loss emotinally and phyically and when your lifes experiances of women comeing and leaving you become all too frequent you lose faith and have no reason to believe the next will stay for the long haul my most recent partner leaving after 4 years even placeing an intervention order on me not for violence or stalking but simply trying to make contact through letters can you believe it. Anyhow getting too personal here but i think you get the picture.

Thanks again FLN for your insiteful comments its much appreciated. i hope to hear from others that may have experianced this problem of retarted ejaculation or any comments they may have.

Good post man, I suspect that it is a confidence thing. You've got all the gear and no doubt a healthy sex appetite, but perhaps a little anxiety is holding you back. The fleshy could help in reconditioning and re-acquainting your penis to not oragasming at the touch of your hand but by the touch of a second party. The feeling as you know is very different.

I went through a similar experience after my divorce. I didn't have sex with another woman for almost three years and of course became very acquainted with Mrs Palmer. The problem there is that Mrs Palmer is the best sex therapist in the world and she knows exactly what your cock wants at any given moment. She's so damn good that you become lazy and often just jack off for effect. Your problem as I see it is that you have lost the craft of fucking. It is a bit of a craft, but it requires you to use different muscles in your body and perhaps you have been concentrating on using those muscles and not on the pleasure that you can give as well as recieve.

With your body suddenly diverting all of it's energies to thrusting, suspending your weight over your partner, and also the physical act of thrusting your hips, suddenly your energies and perhaps a little blood is being drawn from your penis, which previously had been acquainted with not having to do any work as your arm and Mrs Palmer were doing all of the work for you.

I reckon that it may just be a matter of training and a few good porn videos/DVD to get you back in the swing of things so to speak.

Good luck and good sex mate.