Hello FL forum.

I'm interested in the STU product and am very compelled to buy it however I have one concern that is stopping me and that is that I am a virgin, and I don't know whether this will ruin the experience. What do you guys think?

-hxp

HXP, I can't see any reason for it ruining the experience whatsoever - in fact, if anything, it'll probably make it all that much better.

Your post is a little ambiguous - I can read it in two ways: do you mean 'experience' as in your use of the STU, or 'experience' as in your first sex?
If you meant it in terms of the STU, well, it certainly wouldn't hurt to have some practice under your belt before the real thing, plus physiologically there's no difference between a virgin and their counterpart, so it'll feel just as good.

And for the other way around, well, despite just how great the STU is, there's still no substitute for a real woman. The two experiences really aren't comparable, but it's as close as us guys can get while alone.
If you're worried that you'll be disappointed in the real thing, think of it this way; you'll be better prepared for the first time, and it's still guaranteed to feel just that little bit better.

You can't lose!

I was a virgin when I first used a fleshlight and it's no different now that I'm not a virgin. As for the actual sex with one of those things that has a real vagina, it gave me a lot more stamina. You're supposed to last like 30 seconds on your first time right? I lasted an hour and still didn't "finish". But of course there was other factors like alcohol and it was 4am in the morning after a long drunken walk.

Hi hxk, welcome to the fleshlight forums.

I don't think by using an stu it will ruin your first experience with a woman. It will actually enhance your abilities with her. Your first experiece will be a memorable one when it happens and you will probably be more excited about the act of being with her rather than the act of sex.

Using a fleshlight cant take away the feeling of closeness to a woman, or being able to caress them while you are having sex, all it can do is stop you from using your hand which will probably ruin the experience more so if you've gotten to the point of death grip.

Also your partner, will think you're a legend if you've been practicing with a fleshlight and last for hours on your very first time with her Just when you do it, don't set the bar so high you cant reach it again.

holy crap fln and lordoth, these two posts werent here when I started typing mine

LOL @ fazman's slow ass reply....hahah


I am a virgin as well, and I have 5 inserts, including an STU. My stamina from the first time I used these FLs has gotten better, and I dont have any fears of it ruining my experience when I do have sex, so you shouldnt worry about it too much!

Just to clear it up, I did mean the first sexual experience

Thanks for the fast responses and good advice everyone. I'm convinced, I can't wait to try it !

Well done guys, he is convinced now.. hehe

Welcome to our forum hxp and what a great first question..!

Great to see it answered so well and from some of our virgin members, especially since it helped to seal the deal for you so to speak.

I am proud to tell people about the fact we have a lot of virgin customers when I talk about my job and what it is I do. Its fantastic to know there is a product out there for you guys to give yourself more stamina and have something to help with all that frustration of hormones both with the women around you and what is of course running through your own veins. Then when you do get to have that first sexual experience it won't be a 30 sec disaster that you will spend the rest of your life forgetting but something much more impressive.

Great thread and responses guys.

Cheers
Pash
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lol Faz. I didn't see FLN's post even after I posted mine. Mind you I probably closed the windows fast to get ready for work at 9am.



Eh? What answered by what virgin members!? Unless you mean, formally virgin members. Though I might as well be a virgin again - no sex since February lol.

ah the tap will open again soon lordoth, just keeping oozing confidence. Its the same as when u have a missus, women seem to know and find it more sexy

Oh don't worry. I'm not desperate or anything. I'm not too fussed.
Hmm, I twisted my ankle that night ... going for a jog earlier in the evening lol not from the sex... and it still is a bit sore when I (try) to go for runs. Maybe I should go to the Doc (as a twisted ankle shouldn't still bother you 4 - 5 months later) and get it looked at, and then once it's fixed, I'll get lucky again, haha.. did that make any sense at all?

um no

If you're going to have to twist your ankle and endure months of pain afterwards every time you have sex, you might want to contact Forest about his disused leg braces - I hear they're going for a good price now that he doesn't need them anymore.

Ouch.. don't have to tell me about ankles.. and they can be slow healers because we do so much on them. But Id suggest going to a doc.. pls!

*smiles*

Pash
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LMAO....

Run Oth'y run......

You crack me up FLN hehe

Pash
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nah nah. Doesn't hurt when I have sex. Im just saying it's still sore and the night I twisted it was the last time I had sex. How's your injury Pash? Cuz it was much worse than mine!

My ankle is doing awright I rection.. still swelling issues but its down and a LOT better than it was. After moving house then sexpo Adelaide I finally got a chance to just let the ankle have some time to recover rest.

Still a long way to go and some numbness where they cut the tendon with winter now it definitely feels the cold, and I expect it to take a full year or 18 mths to be almost back to normal again with a nice long scar for story telling.

Pash

I wouldn't worry - buy the STU.
Fuck the shit out of it.
Then you can last without being premature on the real woman.

This is not to say that life is all fuckin' and no real relationship - I found that the STU worked for me in ways I did not think it would - it made me last longer, and made the act of sex much more rewarding, as you don't tend to cum so soon, as you would without any practice with a thing like the STU.

This makes holding the woman, and touching her, so much more sensual then it is if you can't hold it, cos if you can't it's all over too soon...

I mean, if you are only thinking of the cock pressing into the vagina, you kinda forget, in that lust, that there is a woman there too!!!



So the STU helps to control your orgasm so that you can get back in touch with the woman/girl you are with.

That's a deliberate double-pun!!!!!

Welcome to the forums Kiwilad.

Well said and im guessing ur from new zealand

Well said, Kiwilad.
I can only imagine the multitude of men out there wasting what would otherwise be one of the most beautiful things they'd experience - only worrying about lasting the distance.
I see sex being all about the other person, and your gratification is just a secondary bonus... kind of like fortune cookies; they taste great and are a bit of a laugh, but without the meal beforehand you'll end up feeling pretty empty inside.

Exactly FLN. This is why I love oral. I prefer to give oral to women than receive it. I just love their reactions to it. I remember I picked up one of my mates who is a stripper so she has had a lot of action from girls & guys and it was nice the next morning when she says "You're tongue was fucking awesome last night!" Mmm, ego-riffic!

Well I have to echo' the latest batch of posts... well said Kiwilad... The FLeshlight is designed to give men something more like a real vagina to work up to his best, so that there is less anxiety and performance pressure in the real act and more time for the scent of her, the desires and the things that make you go mmmmmmmm!

It is and always will be a replacement for the HAND! NOTHING will ever replace the real thing!

Mmmm @ Lordoth..*makes a mental note* check out his tongue! lol

Pash
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Yep.
I've watched these forums for ages, but never felt like I should comment.
It's odd, because I was bought up in a Christian-ish family, in that we don't go to Church, but we were taught that God etc was/is a good thing generally speaking...

Therefore, a product like FL is considered as "SIN" - in the most extreme sense, as according to the church teachings, masturbation is the #1 way to go straight to hell...


I don't fall into line with this, or I would not be having sex at all before marriage...
But I DO believe in a loving sexual relationship - I am not interested in the whole "Fuck-and-run" thing that society seems to have adopted.(if I may use a Liz Phair song title here!)

I think that the whole sex-before-marriage thing is warped out of all proportion...

Anyhoo, I digress...

Exactly.

Well said to YOU, FLN...

Indeed.
I really believe in giving back to the girl/woman.
She wants to be pleased in the same way as you, but the problem tends to be, that for the most part, us men can't control ourselves when stimulated.

...it's true.

If you're a virgin, the hand or some paper towels don't cut it, and at your 1st taste of real pussy, your cock does not know what the fuck this really soft warm stuff is, but it really likes it!

This essentially causes over-stimulation, which is why virgins don't tend to last long - they are not expecting the intense stimulation of the REAL vagina, therefore, aren't prepared for the sensation, and can't control their cock!

Climaxing together is far more EMOTIONAL and enjoyable for both - this is making LOVE: a combination of both sexual pleasure, and extremely intense attraction to the other.

I'd rather have that any day, then just a one-night-stand or a casual fuck.

I kinda pity many women, who probably never get a chance to enjoy sex, cos just as they are getting hot, the man has finished!


So, I bought the STU in my case, to DESENSITIZE me, yet give me some serious performance - kinda like putting a Coby and Weber on your car's engine!!!



The engine will perform better with a free-flow exhaust and Weber carb, as will YOU with a STU FL and some practice!!!

You can get the revvs up fast, and keep them there without suffering fuel starvation!



...I must stop blabling on this forum...

No, you shouldn't! You can go on as you like, and we read it, enjoy it, and think about what you say... I am the worst offender, but no-one seems to mind.

Welcome to the forum, stay here, don't go away, as many members seem to do after a few posts.

Woo hoo, another kiwi. You're dead right. My father passed the same knowledge onto me just before I got married about making sure your women is satisfied as its very easy for a guy to get off. I'm from a similar background as yourself. Brought up with Sunday School and church teachings. Do you think god would've made it feel so good if it was sin? I don't think so. But you're right, the fleshlight is a good way to learn some self control. Hopefully we get some more kiwis on here to spread the fleshlight message.

I have no problem with more kiwis... I hope we get over there for a sexpo one day! hehehe

Pash
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The kiwi guys are definitely missing out. My fleshlights got found the other day in a way I didn't expect. I keep them in the hot water cupboard to dry and my wife noticed there was water in the cupboard the day after she'd had a bath. She got my dad around to have a look and didn't even remember that I stashed my fleshlights in there. He got up to have a look and thought what are these torch things up here..... Oh my god, I was so embarrassed when my wife told me. Her sister saw them to. Just as well that I was at work on night shift. My sister in law said that her husbands toys made out of that stuff had worn out. I said to her that her husbands toy wasn't made of 'that stuff' as it can last a lifetime and suggested she get him some as they're the best.

lol well done Tankman, thanx for referring us on

That's got to be the best one yet - it's really surprising what comes out of people once the ice has been broken, albeit at your embarrassment. Nice FL plug though - at least you made the best of a bad situation.

Mine are still a well hidden secret. I wouldn't be too bothered if any of my friends found out, but family members would be the killer.
Sex is a bit of an awkward thing when it comes to parents - at least for me...

lol I sent my dad an stu for fathers day.

Im giving my 2 brother in laws in canberra an stu each for xmas, then all the men in my family have 1 each

Tehe, at least if they do happen to find a 'torch' in your cupboard they know what do to and what not to do... code mocha, do not open lid or attempt to turn on, pretend it is a torch with flat battery if anybody else is in the room. A lot better than opening the 'lid' to replace the battery to find something rather... squishy and interesting . (And no, for your information I've not been in such a situation.... yet)

The original PL stays hidden pretty well. I also use the cardboard packaging for an extra level of discreetness in storage (I live with my Grandparents). When I do eventually put together enough money for a second FL, most likely the STU, it will be a little harder to keep hidden. One box doesn't look out of place, but two is more obvious.

Being that I have hundreds of boxes of Christmas lights, I could probably paint the FL packaging boxes green or something and it would be hidden for life. Except in December when they would be the only two boxes left in the cupboard.

I have thought about what has been said in this thread.

In my experience, you get OUT of sexual experiences what you put IN to them. So, I agree; if you try your hardest to please and satisfy your partner, then it is very likely that you will end up rewarded with the most pleasure for yourself.

Yes, think of your partner first (and last...) if you want the most satisfactory relationship. Now do the same for the non-sexual parts of your relationship also.

This can be your recipe for lasting happiness.

Tankman:
That's hilarious. I totally visualised that whole situation. It was like some sort of comedy movie ha. The only time I've been discovered was when we were moving and my brother pulled out one of my desk draws cuz it had my wallet etc and underneath the desk draw was a fleshie, with no case. He never said anything but I figured he knew what it was cuz he's on the net a lot.

Jonny:
Well said. If you are unselfish in your relationship then your partner will also respond well, keeping it a happy, healthy. Well, unless she's a conceited egotistical maniac who tromps on your self-esteem, and wants you to treat her really horribly.